Screw that. I put together a sheet of my own from various other sources to distribute to my classmates tomorrow. I would have liked to include a lot more information, but printing stuff costs money (specifically, my limited funds). With some careful formatting and double-sided printing, the text will fit onto one sheet of paper. I copy/pasted this from Word, so the format and bullet-points may look wonky, but you’re welcome to copy/paste/print this for your own means. Here we go:
What’s wrong with suggesting that women take precautions to prevent being raped?
It’s wrong because it puts the onus on women not to get themselves raped, rather than on men not to do the raping; in short, it blames the victim. (Finally Feminism 101)
A lot has been said about how to prevent rape. Women should learn self-defense. Women should lock themselves in their houses after dark. Women shouldn’t have long hair and women shouldn’t wear short skirts. Women shouldn’t leave drinks unattended. Hell, they shouldn’t dare to get drunk at all. Instead of that bullshit, how about:
If a woman is drunk, don’t rape her.
If a woman is walking alone at night, don’t rape her.
If a woman is drugged and unconscious, don’t rape her.
If a woman is wearing a short skirt, don’t rape her.
If a woman is jogging in a park at 5 am, don’t rape her.
If a woman looks like your ex-girlfriend you’re still hung up on, don’t rape her.
If a woman is asleep in her bed, don’t rape her.
If a woman is asleep in your bed, don’t rape her.
If a woman is doing her laundry, don’t rape her.
If a woman is in a coma, don’t rape her.
If a woman changes her mind in the middle of or about a particular activity, don’t rape her.
If a woman has repeatedly refused a certain activity, don’t rape her.
If a woman is not yet a woman, but a child, don’t rape her.
If your girlfriend or wife is not in the mood, don’t rape her.
If your step-daughter is watching TV, don’t rape her.
If you break into a house and find a woman there, don’t rape her.
If your friend thinks it’s okay to rape someone, tell him it’s not, and that he’s not your friend.
If your “friend” tells you he raped someone, report him to the police.
If your frat-brother or another guy at the party tells you there’s an unconscious woman upstairs and it’s your turn, don’t rape her, call the police and tell the guy he’s a rapist.
Tell your sons, god-sons, nephews, grandsons, sons of friends it’s not okay to rape someone.
Don’t tell your women friends how to be safe and avoid rape.
Don’t imply that she could have avoided it if she’d only done/not done x.
Don’t imply that it’s in any way her fault.
Don’t let silence imply agreement when someone tells you he “got some” with the drunk girl.
Don’t perpetuate a culture that tells you that you have no control over or responsibility for your actions. You can, too, help yourself. (Men Can Stop Rape)
Rapists rarely serve time in jail for their crimes. 60% of rapes/sexual assaults are not reported to the police, according to a statistical average of the past 5 years. Those rapists, of course, never spend a day in prison. Factoring in unreported rapes, only about 6% of rapists ever serve a day in jail. (Rape Abuse & Incest National Network)
i never really thought about it before, but yeah it is more common to hear how women should avoid being raped instead of how men should avoid committing rape. wearing a ponytail does not scream “hey come here and rape me.” should we not sleep or always verbally consent to sex to avoid being raped? it is not our fault if we get raped, we do not incite it. trying to tell us how to avoid it is pointing the finger at us women - the victims - and basically condones rape. it does nothing to stop the act where it starts - with the perpetrators, with men.
i hope this is disbursed everywhere so everyone sees how ridiculous and wrong it is to tell women to avoid being raped.
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Day 13- A letter to someone who has hurt you recently
i consider you one of my closest friends, if not best friends (behind tom of course). but sometimes you just don’t act like a friend at all. you are the most bi-polar person i’ve ever met. i love you to pieces but honestly sometimes you just get under my skin so much i just want to punch you in the face. every once in a while you’ll give me a hug and be all nice to me, but other times i’ll hear that you were making fun of me, tom and i, or just being a straight up dick about me behind my back. it hurts to know that one of my best friends would act like that about me. yeah yeah i know you’re “just kidding”, but still. you act so serious about things sometimes, i wonder if you really are “kidding”. sometimes i feel like you treat me with no respect, and put me down just because you can and know my boyfriend won’t say anything to you about it because you guys are best friends. you have a really big ego and are more arrogant than you realize. you don’t have half as much “power” and “control” in this friends group than you think you do. you aren’t our leader, and we aren’t your followers. oh, yeah, i apologize for acting like a girlfriend when i’m with tom. we are dating, but apparently we can’t hold hands or kiss or cuddle. god forbid we show affection towards each other around you. i don’t know why you can’t stand it when we act like that, but we ARE boyfriend & girlfriend and we ARE going to act like it. because i act like a girlfriend and show affection for my boyfriend does not make me needy or clingy. and just because tom texts me, hangs out with me, sticks up for me (on occasion), does not make him whipped. i know you, i know you don’t mean to be a dick, but it just annoys me sometimes. like when you didn’t want me to go to that baseball game the other day.. i heard what you said, and i started crying. no joke, i was seriously legitimately crying. it hurt me that one of my closest friends didn’t want me to go to a baseball game with them. i couldnt believe what you said, and you sounded serious too. it hurt.
but you realize that how you act & treat me is wrong and that you have to change. i appreciate that, and i’m glad. i can never get that mad at you though, you’re too good of a friend. hopefully you do change though, it’d make me haaappyyyy.
Day 12- How you found out about Tumblr and why you made one
hmmmm. i think i found out about tumblr through someone’s facebook. i made one because it seemed cool, and not like your typical blog. plus i figured i could use it to showcase my artwork. which hasnt really happened lol but it’s been a good source of inspiration.